More often than not, for a person placed in Eliot's position, one has to be wary of making
comments because they are liable to misuse. I do not suppose Eliot would be so unkind as not appreciate where appreciation was due in his estimation.

--- On Wed, 6/17/09, Nancy Gish <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

If your purpose is to acknowledge and appreciate another's thoughtfulness, clearly it is not.  If your purpose is to avoid that, it could be. 

>>> Chokh Raj 06/17/09 6:19 AM >>>

I wonder if sending a thank-you note is being "covertly unkind".

--- On Wed, 6/17/09, Peter Montgomery <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

If their gift required any kind of response at all,
was it really a gift?

----- Original Message ----- 
From: Nancy Gish 
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Subject: Re: Eliot on Gifts (Was Re: Augustine--Now ON Topic)

Dear Rickard,
I've read it too and also don't remember where.  But do you really consider it wisdom?  It seems to me a way to be covertly unkind to those who sent a gift.  

>>> Rickard Parker <MailScanner has detected a possible fraud attempt from "" claiming to be [log in to unmask]> 06/16/09 5:18 PM >>> 
> The OT thread on the phrase and concept "free gift" made me want to look 
> at how Eliot deals with "gifts" and "giving" in his poetry. 

On the subject of gifts here is something that I first send after 
Christmas 2007: 

Now seems a good time to pass along a little bit of Eliot wisdom. 

Eliot said to write a thank you note immediately for every book gotten 
as a gift. That way one avoided having to comment upon its content. 

I wish I remembered where I read this. 

Rick Parker