Dear Rickard,
I've read it too and also don't remember where.  But do you really consider it wisdom?  It seems to me a way to be covertly unkind to those who sent a gift.  

>>> Rickard Parker <[log in to unmask]> 06/16/09 5:18 PM >>> 
> The OT thread on the phrase and concept "free gift" made me want to look 
> at how Eliot deals with "gifts" and "giving" in his poetry. 

On the subject of gifts here is something that I first send after 
Christmas 2007: 

Now seems a good time to pass along a little bit of Eliot wisdom. 

Eliot said to write a thank you note immediately for every book gotten 
as a gift. That way one avoided having to comment upon its content. 

I wish I remembered where I read this. 

Rick Parker