She waited 30 years for him and he ended up marrying someone else, but she wasn't silly?  He didn't live with her. He didn't ask her to share his life. He didn't even live in the same country as her. How much happiness did he give her in those 30 years and how much pain, but she wasn't silly?  In 1990, a man that I had known for two weeks said he loved me and then asked me to marry him.  I don't know what 1911 has to do with it.  I wouldn't wait three months for a man who said he loved me but didn't ask me to marry him, never mind 30 years.  She may have been intelligent as hell, but about men, she was a silly goose and greatly lacking in self-esteem.
In a message dated 6/14/2007 10:36:27 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, [log in to unmask] writes:
As I said, there is no analogy.  In 1911, if a man said he was in love,
it was to be trusted.  That was the point of those words.  And it is
frankly disgraceful to say that when a man betrays trust the woman is
just silly.  It is outrageous. 

>>> Kate Troy <[log in to unmask]> 06/14/07 8:06 PM >>>

By the way, Nancy, Annette was also a New England lady.

As I remember, Annette had a good job and received promotions, etc. She

owned a nice home. Emily waited all of those years, instead of pursuing
happiness with a man who wanted to be with her.  I imagine that Emily
used  to cry
at Christmas and Thanksgiving and on her birthday, etc., just as
Annette used
to do.

In a message dated 6/14/2007 7:40:01 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, 
[log in to unmask] writes:

Emily  Hale was a very accomplished, intelligent woman who was also a
England  lady in 1911 when she and TSE met--well before the married Viv.

When they  started writing and seeing each other, Viv had been put in
institution.  Hale did not just meet a married man and "see"  him.
is no analogy at all.  She was not remotely silly or  naive.


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