Dear Listers,
Here's an exceedingly fascinating study -- quite enormous
and time-consuming though, but quite rewarding.  Not directly
connected with the topic under discussion, but maybe it throws
some light on it as well. 
From "Glowed into words": Vivien Eliot, Philomela, and the Poet's Tortured Corpse
by Shannon McRae  [Twentieth Century Literature,  Summer, 2003 ]
An Excerpt :
The poem is thoroughly imbued with Vivien's presence -- as an object of the poet's terror and a figure for his desire. I do not mean to suggest that the poem is purely biographical, nor that it is ultimately about his wife. Rather, she is a central, metaphoric node in the complex matrix of mythic, literary, and libidinal cross-references from which it is constituted. Although separating himself from Vivien may have been necessary to Eliot's emotional survival, The Waste Land exists because of his identification with her suffering -- identification founded in experience that fuses the personal with the mythic.

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