In a message dated 20/09/2006 20:02:51 GMT Daylight Time, [log in to unmask] writes:

Peter, One wonders if it was Valerie's adoration and what Eliot describes as her "coddling" of him that broke through Old Possum's inhibitions to intimacy, or whether he simply lost his horror of it as he grew older, or a combo of both. We shall never know! Diana


From: Peter Montgomery <[log in to unmask]>
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Subject: Re: Oh dark, dark, dark.
Date: Wed, 20 Sep 2006 05:39:07 -0700

Sounds like he made a GOOD choice.
P.
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Donald Hall in his essay on Eliot describes meeting him at Faber some time before his marriage as a stooped, slow-moving old man. After he married Valerie, Hall writes that he looked ten years younger, stood straight and was as debonair as a matinee idol.


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Subject: Re: Oh dark, dark, dark.
Date: Tue, 19 Sep 2006 03:11:08 -0700

Seemd to me to be quite compatible with Eliot's religious and poetic sensibilities.
 
The focus on simplicity is crucial.I think Eliot was searching
for that child-like simplicity. The joy he found with Valerie
seems to reflect some success in that regard. Perhaps Old
Possum's Book of Practical Cats is another reflection of its being
part of whom Eliot was.
 
Perhaps once the simplicity is apprached, the poetry weakens or is not
needed..........................
Yes, remember most vividly being very taken-aback [some might say 'gobsmacked'] when I first encountered 'A Dedication to my Wife' - pure simple and unalloyed joy or what ?
 
Regards
 
David