Nancy Gish wrote:

> I'm afraid I was responding a bit satirically to the idea that Eliot was under
> no moral or ethical responsibility to Emily Hale despite having continued a
> relationship with her for 30 years.  It was not a response to any lines in
> poetry.

Dear Nancy,
    Sorry if I confused you.  I was only trying to find a source for your

     I think where we may disagree is in admiring Eliot's comment that a
     man's
     gotta do what a man's gotta do.

As Jennifer pointed out, those words are not in SA.  I thought maybe "We all gotta
do what we gotta do" was in your mind, and even if not, that it was worth noting
the line.

     I gotta use words when I talk to you
     But if you understand or if you don’t
     That’s nothing to me and nothing to you
     We all gotta do what we gotta do
     We’re gona sit here and drink this booze
     We’re gona sit here and have a tune
     We’re gona stay and we’re gona go
     And somebody’s gotta pay the rent


M.